beautiful hair. (by Joy Okon)
Please watch. This is the story of so many Black girls.
Y’ALLS TRYIN’ TO MAKE ME CRY TODAY HUH?
Oh my heart.
I think black mother’s don’t realize the power they have on what their children think about themselves. My mother gave me a relaxer at the age of 4 because I was tender-headed. So for almost 20 years I straightened my hair. Then one day while I was in college, my mother was doing my hair in braids and she pulled out a piece that I missed on my last relaxer and said “look at how pretty that hair is.” The same mother who gave me a relaxer in that very moment changed what I thought of my natural hair. And from that day forward I never put a relaxer in. Even though she had relaxed my hair most of my life for convenience, when she had the chance to change my opinion of my hair she did. She said if it hadn’t been for me crying when she did my hair, she would have left it alone. If you see that you may be giving out the wrong message to your children, take the next opportunity to change what you say.